Friday, August 14, 2009

The What Ifs..

What if he doesn't know about the voluntary registers and is just oblivious to me exising?

What if he is dead?

What if he doesn't want to think about the fact that he has children as a result of his donations?

What if he thinks about it, but doesn't care?

What if he thinks about it and it all seems too hard, so he just doesn't even bother?

What if I make contact and he chooses he would rather not know me?

It's all too much some times, and maybe ignorance is bliss...............


Alison D said...

Knowing who your father is shouldn't be an option. It is part of your identity. I didn't know I was donor conceived until I was looking for a bone marrow donor and all the information I supplied the clinic about who I thought was my father was wrong. It's shattering. The law ought to treat the donor conceived in the same way it does adopted people - it is vital for our self knowledge and for the future of medicine.

Rel said...

I agree Alison. Wow, it must have certainly been a shock, I can sympathise completely.

It's obviously a hard time for you, but i have to ask; do you feel better knowing the truth, even if you did find out in a non-direct way?

Yes, I agree about the law... The United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child states that every child has the right to an identity and it should not discriminate against children conceived by alternative methods, especially when the state itself has been a part of the child's conception.

Where in the world do you live Alison?

Have you signed up to pcvai on

Matthewzor said...

good questions....