Saturday, May 02, 2009

I am N.T.

Ok, so screw keeping this a secret... secrets is what made me and I am not going to be an advocate for them, for I know the damage they can do.

T5 = His surname starts with the letter T and he was the fifth donor at Prince Henry's to donate, with the surname starting with T.  

Therefore I am Narelle T.  

His surname is Maltese and starts with the letter T.  

This means a lot to me.... My sister thinks it's sad that I am thrilled with such small news, and I think it is sad, that I have to sit around and be fed bread crumbs about all of this, this information that is MINE.  It's so frustrating, yet I am happy to know something more.

I will visit Malta within the next few months.  I will visit my mum's home town and my maternal relatives, and who knows, I might just bump into T5's relatives (my relatives) without even knowing it.  Either way, it will be nice to "go home".


Chrissy said...

I, literally, stumbled across your blog looking for something else. I went back and read your archives. I commend your efforts. I have been down the infertility trail (used our own egg and sperm) and we considered ourselves lucky that we didn't have to face a DE or DS decision.

One thing struck me about your half siblings. You have their dates of birth. Are their numerous hospitals in your area (where you were born)? Here in the States, hospital birth information is public record. For example, I can log into my birth hospital, plug in my date of birth and all the kids listed on my birth date show up. That might be an avenue to research. At least you'd have some names to search on??

Keep fighting the good fight. I hope you continue to blog.

Rel said...

Hi Chrissy,

Thank you for your kind words.

I don't think birth records via hospitals are public record, but I could investigate that... although at the moment I am living on the other side of the world. I did try to search in newspapers, looking at birth notices and had some leads, although never had the courage to go further with it and it required many, many hours more energy, which I didn't have at the time. I just think, what if I do find them myself, then what? I don't want to be the one to break it to them, but then I think they deserve to know. It's a huge mine field really. No way about it is easy, unless of course they come forward too, but the chances of that happening are very slim.

Thank you for your advice though, that'd be great if I could get such information from hospitals.

Cheers :)